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Hello friend,
This morning I was waiting for coffee behind a couple who were being almost aggressively polite. You know the tone. Smiles that are a little too quick. “No, you go ahead” said like a dare. Everything sounded fine, but the air felt tight, like the room was holding its breath with them. Then the barista called the wrong name and they both laughed, like they remembered they actually like each other. And then, just as fast, the tightness slid back in, like a rubber band snapping into place.
I’ve been thinking about how familiar that snap is. Not just in relationships, but in people. Your brain lands on a meaning, your body tightens, and suddenly you’re answering a version of the moment that hasn’t even fully happened yet.. It’s strange how quickly we can turn a small moment into a whole story. And if you’re tired, or stressed, or feeling a little raw, the story writes itself even faster.
Maybe unpopular, but I don’t always believe the healthiest move is to talk everything through right away. Sometimes the most useful thing is noticing the pattern before you turn it into a whole evening. Catching the exact beat where you’re about to go cold, or get sharp, or prove a point you do not even want to be proving. That beat is where the warmth either survives, or it doesn’t.
I want more of that beat today. Not a grand conversation. Not a dramatic “we need to talk.” Just a little room to meet each other again before the snap takes over. The kind of room where you can say something honest without making it a verdict on the whole relationship.
Until tomorrow,
Vayresa
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